i think im a lesbian but im only 15 and ive always had guys interested in me and i love it so much. male validation brings me so much joy and im so ashamed by it. i just know that as soon as i come out as a lesbian everyone will turn on me. all the guys that ive hooked up with or dated are gonna have these stupid jokes with their friends about how they dated a lesbian and all the validation will be gone. its so refreshing to acknowledge my feelings towards women but ive gotten so used to being that girl that always has a boyfriend and i cant imagine it any other way. i also go to an all girls school and i just know im gonna be demonized etc. i do just wanna be my authentic self though ://

2 years ago

okay word i hear you I have so many questions though, do you like hooking up with guys? even if you're a lesbian, male validation can be nice! we, as people, always seek male validation. its because of the patriarchy and all that shizz. maybe you're bi! i would say look online for groups of safe trustable people you can be yourself with and come out when you feel safe and ready. And if later down the line you learn more about yourself, you can always change your mind! we are always changing and learning. also just because you're 15 doesnt mean you dont know how you feel sexually and romantically, you know yourself better than anyone, no matter the age!

2 years ago