I've (15 demi-female) been in a qpp (queer-platonic partnership) for a couple months. I've known my partner (14 bigender) for about a year and a half, and she's honestly the best person I know (For easy reading I will address my partner solely with she/her pronouns). She's polyamorous which I honestly have no problem with. My problem comes with my clinginess. I get jealous easily and need affirmation that she loves me about every couple of hours. I also know that since she is extremely sweet, and I can be a bit rude and sarcastic sometimes, the only reason why any problems should arise would be my fault. I'm scared of her starting to hate me. This is my first time emotionally relying on someone so much that I would be broken if something happened. This is exactly what I tried to avoid when I stopped emotionally relying on people but I guess that backfired, huh. Anyway I'm looking for any sort of advice on what I can fix about myself. Thanks for reading.

2 years ago

2 years ago

Yourself aware, that is a good start! Loving yourself, taking a moment to breath. When you feel the moment of needing assurances look inside yourself, tell yourself, I love me... As time goes on & each day you affirm your thoughts you will find just how much you love yourself... “Fake it tell you make it” so they say, your building yourself up. As human’s we get lost in our thoughts & thus become lost. When we hold on too tight to someone it becomes exhausting for all involved, it’s not sustainable. P.S. rude people end up miserable because no one wants to be around them, their left lonely. Making them even more miserable, it’s a dangerous cycle, in the long run.

2 years ago